It’s Complicated

Life is complicated. An understatement when you have been through the wringer of dysfunction in your family. First came our mother Mary with her myriad of troubles, a troubled past, a troubled present and a boatload of “troubles”. Mental problems aggravated by alcohol abuse, pill popping, food addiction and refusing to accept responsibility just to […]

“Joey Good Times”

After getting a divorce from my son’s father, I met a few men that I wanted to date. My son’s favorite, far and away, was a man he nicknamed “Joey Good Times.” Joe was a man who decided that the best way to get me to fall in love with him was to cozy up […]

A Surrogate Mother Unlike Any Other

Growing up with Mary for a mother, I realized at a very young age that I was going to need some other role models. During the time we lived in Chicago, Aunt Olive filled that position. She made new clothes for me, took me shopping, arranged photo opportunities, and tried her best to teach me […]

Strangely Estranged

Our mother was not around for a lot of our lives. After our parents divorced, she moved to California, and that was that. For many, many years we rarely heard from her, much less saw her. She not only missed the birth of her first grandchild, she missed many other significant events: I graduated from […]

‘Tis The Season

You may have a vision of Lindy and I sitting around like two Pitiful Pearls on Christmas. I wouldn’t be surprised that you might picture that based on some of the experiences we’ve recounted here. But in fact, nothing could be further from the truth.  Whether because of all the Ladies Home Journal articles she had […]

Paging Tammy Wynette

Tammy Wynette made the song “D-I-V-O-R-C-E” famous. In our house, Mother made the same word infamous. One year seemed to run into another and before you thought things couldn’t get worse, our parents divorced. I was in eighth grade and had just been fitted for braces and glasses. It was like playing baseball, three strikes […]