“I don’t think God meant for any of us not to have a family.”

I don’t think God meant for any of us not to have a family. I heard this quote from the movie ‘The Butler’ yesterday and I find it so powerful. It touched my heart in a deep way because our mother must have felt like she didn’t have a family after the death of her […]

Held Hostage

When my sister Abby and I were children, our ability to escape from our mother was rather limited. We could go outdoors and hide from her or go outdoors and stand in front of her, still being invisible. Of course, Dad always made sure we had time with him, away from mother, which was like […]

Eulogy for My Grandmother

Shortly after my grandmother Mary passed away, our family gathered on Mother’s Day to remember her life and note her passing. I was honored to officiate at this service. In consultation with the rest of the family, we had developed a set of readings and songs that we felt were appropriate for the service. During […]

Serenity Now!

Our mother loved, loved, loved The Serenity Prayer. The Serenity Prayer is the common name for an originally untitled prayer by twentieth century American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr. The prayer has been adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous and other twelve-step programs. The best-known form is: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, […]

Martin Luther King Junior Day

You already know that Mother had some pretty unusual preconceived notions about people.  If you were Jewish, she thought you were smart.  If you were Catholic, she thought you had a direct stairway to God. If you were African-American, she thought you would welcome the gift of our old clothes! Yes, she did stereotype. No, […]

An Attitude of Gratitude

Abby and I never used our circumstance as reasons for others to take pity on us.  Nor do we today.  Mary was a victim plain and simple and could not overcome the inertia needed to stop the insanity. We on the other hand have chosen gratitude – thankfulness for all that we experienced. And we […]