Every Picture Tells A Story

While cleaning/dejunking/organizing our basement, I found several boxes of old photos. As I looked through them all, I was amazed when looking at several pictures of our mother. She was smiling! She looked happy! In fact, she looked like she didn’t have a care in the world! What was going on? Was she drunk or […]

Happy Birthday, Mother

My sister and I have already written about some of our adventures with Mother on her birthday. There was the year we bought Neapolitan ice cream…which turned out to be the one flavor she hated. There was the year we had the surprise 80th birthday party with several of her relatives. And there was the […]

Putting On Airs

One of the behaviors that our dad did not encourage was ‘putting on airs’. The phrase is a bit old-fashioned, but it simply means to act as if you are better than others. Dad never boasted about his accomplishments and did not want us to do so either. Mother, on the other hand, was the […]


You already know that my sister Lindy and I are the closest of biological sisters. Add our stepsister Sissy into the mix and we are all three the closest of sisters and friends. However, you probably are not aware of our half-sister Melinda. Melinda was born when our mother (the amazing Mary) was in the […]

Neutering Can Save Your Life

One thing my sister and I have learned from having a parent without coping skills is that when you are able to do so, it is a good idea to neuter them. Coping is ‘constantly changing cognitive and behavioral efforts to manage specific external and/or internal demands that are appraised as taxing or exceeding the […]

Mother Hates Mediacom

When Mother arrived in Iowa, she decided she wanted to buy a television so she could “keep up with what was going on in the world” (whatever that meant). My husband Charles and I took her out to see what was available. Since Mother’s vision was extremely poor by this point in her life, and […]