Normal Step-family

Brady BunchOnce Dad married our stepmother Beatrice, my sister Lindy and I thought we would have a normal step-family. We didn’t actually know what exactly that would entail, but we had some ideas.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed that we could have Coca-Cola whenever we wanted. That part turned out be true.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed that we would be able to go to our Dad’s house whenever we wanted. Again, this part was true.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed that we would have new siblings to develop a close relationship with.  That was true although it took some time.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed that we would go places together and have fun. We did go swimming and on vacation. But like all families, we had some fun times and some not so fun times.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed that we would not have to contend with Mary. That was so not true.

In our “Normal Step-family” we assumed we would have a “Brady Bunch” existence. This might have happened with a family meeting and some discussion of the expectations in the new family. However, in our family none of that happened.

We also assumed there would be clear and honest communication–something I learned was not going to happen when my dad relayed to me that Beatrice wanted me to do the dishes. Our family communication was pretty confusing since we hardly ever talked directly to the person involved in the situation.

Finally, we had some idea that being in a step-family was going to be our ticket to a twenty-four hour Disneyland populated with charming, delightful people who loved and adored us. Boy, were we in for a surprise!

Despite all the perils of being in a step-family, it is still a source of comfort and encouragement. It is still wonderful to have additional siblings and additional nieces and nephews. It is a place where we all can share the stories of growing up Far From Normal.

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