One of that favorite sayings in our family is:
I love you to the moon and back.
It is that special, unconditional love that a parent has for their children or how a child who has grown up, especially in a far from normal home, feels for that parent who was always there for them. That’s how we felt about our dad. He made us feel so special that whenever we doubted the outcome of our lives with our mother, we knew there was always Dad.
Now Mother on the other hand saved her love for individuals that were not related. Although she loved to say that husband number three, Tom, always thought Taylor “hung the moon.” That’s because he was such an amazing little guy! Mother also shared the feeling that he hung the moon but in a different way. With her admiration also came her criticism. She had no filter so thought nothing of spilling out verbal garbage and would share her feelings, as she would so often claim, “just to help.” Kind of like a person pouring gasoline onto a fire is doing it “just to help.”
Taylor learned at a young age not to pay much attention to his grandmother either. He knew she suffered from mental illness so cut her some slack and mostly ignored her comments. Truthfully, in his adult years, Taylor had become so independent that he really didn’t give a rat’s ass what his wacko grandmother said. It wasn’t disrespectful on his part. Rather, he was thoroughly disabused of any fantasy that “Grandma” would say something supportive without undercutting by immediately saying something demeaning.
Having that feeling that someone loves you to the moon and back is that security all children deserve. My sister Abby and I know how different our lives would have been without a dad who cared so much, who always let us know how smart and capable and wonderful we were. It was such a precious gift! A dad with a heart so big he could welcome our new siblings Sissy and Kevin in to to our family and make them feel special too!
They say that whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Trust me when I say that we sisters are all strong women who have raised some awesome children. Yes, four children who are now all grown up and share that same sentiment with our own children. We love our kids to the moon and back.